A woman who believed her relationship could handle the shift to polyamory was left blindsided by her fiancée’s decision.
After two years together, Sloan Risolio, 29 and her fiancée decided to explore an polyamorous relationship. After searching for the right person to invite into their dynamic, they eventually found another woman they both felt a connection with.
However their polyamorous relationship lasted just two months, and by the first month Sloan began to notice a shift. “I didn’t start feeling like I was on the outside probably until a month before the break-up. I started to notice that they had a lot in common,” she revealed.
It wasn’t only the small things she discovered they had in common, it was deeper interests, like playing the guitar. And sadly, Sloan quickly started to feel like a third wheel in her own relationship.
Sloan felt blindsided when her partners decided to form a relationship of their own outside of the trio. She later found out it was her fiancee’s decision – one that had been made without her.
The woman was taken by a surprise when her partners shut her out completely. “My fiancée was the one who ended up breaking up with me for the both of them. My girlfriend never really broke up with me – it was just based on what my fiancée had said,” she explained.
Sloan believed she had a strong intense connection with her fiancee, which made the betrayal hit hard. The woman who she imagined a future with had chosen someone else. “It was devasting, there were big feelings of betrayal. There was this big feeling of abandonment, betrayal and devastation.”
After, Sloan’s life felt as if it had collapsed. The break-up left her questioning if her partner had truly loved her. “She completely broke down who I was as a person and just destroyed me,” she admitted. “I’ve had to spend the last eight months building myself back up from that.”
The past eight months, Sloan had to turn to therapy, where she could work through the emotions and thoughts she was going through.
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